The Flawesome Award

Image from Sophia Ismaa

I was nominated by Elizabeth for the Flawesome Award. Elizabeth blogs about mental health and lifestyle topics over on The Uncustomary Housewife. She is one of my absolute favourite bloggers. I hope you will all go follow her and read her work. Elizabeth, I think you are fantastic and it means a lot to me that you thought of me for this award. Thank you.

About the Award

Sophia Ismaa created the Flawesome Award. I could paraphrase, but she said it best:

“It’s time to celebrate the flaws that make you awesome. How many times do we see an award that celebrates all things bright and shiny and sunny in a person? How often do we forget that our weaknesses can be a strength? Our flaws make us human, our flaws tell us more about who we are, and in turn we turn those flaws into awesome strengths. In short, our flaws make us #flawesome.”

( From: https://sophiaismaa.wordpress.com/2018/08/31/the-flawesome-award/ )

I believe we learn a lot from what we perceive as flaws, so I think this award is pretty amazing.

Rules of the Flawesome Award

  1. Link back to the creator – Sophia Ismaa Writes
  2. Display the award
  3. List 3 flaws and turn it into a strength
  4. Tag 10 other people

My Flaws & Strengths

I have difficulty discussing my strengths, so this wasn’t easy for me. I decided that given this is a mental health blog, I would take this opportunity to focus on ways in which my mental illnesses have created strengths in me. Bear with me because I don’t want anyone to think that I believe illnesses reflect badly on those who have them. Having an illness doesn’t mean you are flawed. I think illnesses are a part of life. My grandma used to always say, “everything happens for a reason”. I wouldn’t go that far, but I do think we learn things and adapt from hard times. I am going to focus on ways that mental illness negatively impacts my life that have brought about positive lessons for me.

I can be withdrawn

The flaw: My depression and anxiety disorders often lead me to withdraw from my life. I can seclude myself, not seeing anyone for months. This can negatively impact my relationships with friends and family. It also leads me to feel lonelier and more isolated which causes my depression and anxiety symptoms to worsen.

The strength: I value my friends and family above all else. I have always been someone who cares deeply about the people in my life, but my seclusion further emphasizes the importance of my social connections. I am hyper-aware of how much my loved ones mean to me. In a world where we can sometimes veer towards selfishness, I see this focus on others as a strength.

I worry excessively

The flaw: I spend much of my time anxious and worried. My anxiety is severe and impedes my functioning in very real ways. My head is always spinning with “what ifs” and worst case scenarios. I can react negatively to events, information or stimuli I am not expecting. My worry has affected my mental and physical health, and many aspects of my life.

The strength: I am organized and prepared. My files are in order, I know where most of my belongings are, I have checklists for everything and I keep an updated calendar. I worry about all sorts of possibilities arising, and I often work hard to prepare for things. This means when I go on road trips I have a binder full of directions, restaurant menus, festivals and events, addresses and phone numbers. Being organized and prepared is a coping mechanism I need to stay afloat when I am anxious. Organization and preparedness help me avoid surprises and be ready for things that come my way.

I’m not where I thought I would be

The flaw: Some of my plans for my life haven’t worked out. As a result of my mental illnesses, I am low functioning at the moment. I am 26 years old but I’m not able to work, I’m very dependent on others and some aspects of my personal life have been put on hold. I am not able to contribute financially to my family. I’m not currently able to take care of myself independently.

The strength: It took me a long time to accept that I might have to let go of things I had always planned for. I have had to re-evaluate some of my preconceptions about life. I have come to accept that it is okay to rely on others, we all do sometimes. We don’t exist independent of the help we are granted. Independence remains important, gaining further independence is a major goal of mine. But I no longer think it’s a flaw to need help or ask for it. Likewise, I used to think that ambition was a universally important character trait. I now realize that ambition sometimes comes at the expense of happiness. We can become lost in our ambitions, I’m sure I have. I have an appreciation for prioritizing the things I find most important and I’m no longer judgemental of anyone who is taking time to find their footing. It is okay to just be. There is a lot to be said for a life of balance.

My nominees

These are the bloggers who I want to recognize for their work. I hope you will go visit them on social media and check out their blogs.

To the bloggers: I’m sure many of you have already received this award. There’s no pressure to keep it going, I just think you are wonderful.

Ain’t No Atlas

@no_atlas

https://aintnoatlas.home.blog/

Dr. Ashley

The Panicked Foodie

@PanickedFoodie

https://thepanickedfoodie.com/

Brian & Chelsea

Two of a Mind

@Brian_ToaM & @Chels_ToaM

https://www.twoofamind.com/

Carys

Carys Emma Blog

@carys_emma_

https://carysemmablog.wordpress.com/

Fiona

The Fractured Light

@fracturedlightx 

https://www.thefracturedlight.com/

Joan

My Best Friend Adeline

@joansenio1

http://kindness-compassion-and-coaching.com/

Khadra

The Good The Human

@TheGoodTheHuma1

https://thegoodthehuman.wordpress.com/

Lindsay

Seeds in the Wasteland

@seedsinthewaste

https://seedsinthewasteland.wordpress.com/

Nicole

Navigating Darkness

@ItsNicoleCarman

www.navigatingdarkness.com

Sam

Mentally Speaking

@MaddDawgDailey

https://maddawgvlogsblogspot.com/


 

Thanks again to Elizabeth for nominating me. It turned out to be a great exercise for me to identify strengths and lessons I have gained.

Take care,

Fiona

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8 thoughts on “The Flawesome Award

  1. First off, thank you so much for the kind words. You are simply amazing. Second, are we essentially the same person? Because we are so much alike, I absolutely love it. The third “flaw turned strength” you listed hit me, hard; “It took me a long time to accept that I might have to let go of things I had always planned for.” This is so very true for me as well. Sure, probably for different reasons, as you and I have led different lives. But I can understand my own version of this. I’m absolutely not living the life I thought I would be living. I’ve had to readjust my life, and expectations of life, based on my mental illness and other factors. It isn’t easy to accept. I know, I quote Evan Hansen very often, but “we start with stars in our eyes […] but every sun doesn’t rise.” Life is tough, we make plans for ourselves, and we have aspirations, but sometimes we have to readjust. It isn’t easy. We will readjust and get through this together. You are awesome!

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